Where did you complete your training (or where are you still in training)?
I completed my training with Oxygen Advantage.
What do you enjoy about breathwork and how has it helped you?
I have spent years working with confidence, anxiety, behaviour and the way people respond under pressure. Breathwork has given me another way of looking at what happens before the thoughts and behaviour become obvious.
I have become much more aware of my own breathing during the day, especially when I am working, training, having difficult conversations or moving between periods of pressure and recovery.
It has also made me question some assumptions I had about calming yourself down. I used to think primarily in terms of changing thoughts or taking action. I now pay much more attention to the physical state somebody is bringing into a situation.
I like that the breath is always there. You do not have to wait for a coaching session or a crisis to start noticing it.
Are you trained in any other modalities?
Yes. My wider training includes CBT, NLP, EMDR, EFT and Thought Field Therapy.
I have also worked as a dating and confidence coach since 2008, with most of my work centred around behavioural change, social confidence, relationships, rejection, communication and helping people take action in situations they would normally avoid.
How do they integrate with breathwork?
Most of my work has involved helping people understand what happens when they feel pressure and then helping them respond differently.
The psychological approaches give me ways of looking at thoughts, beliefs, emotions and learned responses. Breathwork adds another perspective because I can also pay attention to what is happening physically.
I find the combination useful because people do not experience anxiety, confidence or pressure purely as thoughts. You can see changes in breathing, posture, tension, speech and attention.
I am interested in how all of those parts interact rather than treating them as separate problems.
What is your personal journey?
I have been coaching men in dating and confidence since 2008.
A large part of my career has involved putting people into the situations they are afraid of rather than discussing those situations from a distance. That might mean helping somebody start conversations with strangers, deal with rejection, go on dates, communicate more clearly or become comfortable expressing what they actually think.
Working this way taught me something quite early: people can understand intellectually that they are safe and still have a strong physical response.
I have seen intelligent, capable and articulate men become tense, breathe differently, lose access to their normal sense of humour and start overthinking the moment they meet somebody they find attractive.
For years I approached most of this through behaviour, psychology and exposure. I still believe strongly in taking action and gaining real experience.
Completing my Oxygen Advantage training added another layer.
I started noticing things I had previously overlooked. How somebody is breathing before they walk into a difficult situation. How much tension they are carrying before anything has happened. How their state has been developing across the entire day rather than appearing suddenly at the moment they feel anxious.
That has made me more curious about the relationship between breath, attention, emotional state and behaviour.
I have spent almost two decades teaching confidence, and breathwork has given me a different way of looking at many of the situations I have been working with for years.
What do you stand for, and what do you stand against?
I stand for taking responsibility for the parts of your life that you can influence.
I believe in developing courage through experience, becoming more aware of your own patterns and learning skills that allow you to participate more fully in life.
I also believe people should be allowed to feel nervous, uncertain or uncomfortable without treating those feelings as evidence that something is wrong with them.
I stand against creating dependency on coaches, endless self-analysis and the idea that somebody has to become perfectly healed, calm or confident before they can participate in life.
I am also cautious about exaggerated promises. Whether we are talking about coaching, psychology or breathwork, I prefer curiosity, practice and evidence from experience over claims that one method solves everything.
What is your greatest wish for your clients
My greatest wish is that they become less restricted by fear.
I want somebody to be able to feel nervous and still start the conversation, have the difficult discussion, express what they believe, take the opportunity or walk into the room.
Confidence, to me, is closely connected to knowing that you can deal with what happens next.
If my work helps somebody participate more fully in their own life rather than watching opportunities pass because they were waiting to feel ready, I consider that meaningful work.
Other
I have spent much of my career exploring confidence outside the therapy room or coaching session, particularly what happens when somebody has to act while experiencing uncertainty, attraction, rejection or social pressure.
My work with breath has made me interested in what happens physically during those same moments and how much of our state is already developing before the event we think caused it.
